Dating A Co-Worker

I have always heard that it’s a bad idea to have a fling at the office. Why is that? It’s estimated that as many as 60% of men and women have had some sort of office romance at some point during their professional lives. Obviously men and women are going to hook up or date the people they are attracted to, even if it is the hot brunette in the cubicle next to them. It’s silly to pass on someone just because they work with you. This person could end up being the love of your life, right? So, if you plan on going down that taboo path, there are some things you need to know before making the big decision.

If you actually care about your job (many people couldn’t care less) I highly recommend looking into your company’s policy on dating and outside relationships between employees. If that is a big NO-NO at your current company, then you would need to jump in with extreme caution, if you still decide to go against their rules.

Some companies allow dating within the office, but have certain guidelines that need to be followed. You might even have to sign something with the HR department. What you sign is different from organization to organization, but it’s definitely making some sort of public declaration of the relationship.

Even if your attraction level to someone is through the roof, you need to think rationally and clearly about your job first. You need to think about his or her job as well. The last thing you want to happen is to get fired, or to get the other person fired. If one of you is in a position of power, it’s important not to let the relationship look like it’s happening for career advancement.

That is why you need to take things slowly. Let it advance at a snail’s pace. This might be hard to do, but you need to do it if you are going to give this type of romance a try. You will want to frequent their desk less often, and send fewer emails. As most of you know, people like to talk. Office gossip is a strong bonding tool for people, so if you plan on opening your mouth to anyone, make sure you trust them 100%.

One great thing about dating a co-worker is the fact that you constantly have a strong topic of conversation, and an instant bond. It is a lot easier to listen to someone complain about work if you know exactly where they’re coming from. You can also have piece of mind knowing what they are doing all day if you are the jealous type. Although, that could also be a bad thing if they work closely with someone that you might be threatened by. The whole “out of sight out of mind” thing goes right out the window.

Seeing too much of the person could end up being a problem. Early on in relationships it’s so easy to want to spend every moment together, but usually there is an 8-10 hour period during the day when you don’t see each other, or talk to one another. All the time you spend together is at night and on the weekends. However, if you are not compatible, you might figure this out sooner after spending all that time together. This could expedite the inevitable.

If you plan on hooking up or dating the co-worker you’ve been flirting with for the last few months, do so with caution. Remember to check out your company’s policy on everything, and try and keep things quiet for the first couple months. If things don’t work out between the two of you, remember, that you will still be working together. You should discuss this during the relationship. You also need to have a clear communication and understanding on the whole situation. If you don’t, it could end up being a disaster.

Instantly Attract More Women

Women put up walls as a time management tool. If they spent time on every dude that hit on them, they wouldn’t be able to leave their own homes. Because of this, it is important to have a few tricks up your sleeve that can open her up, and let you into her world. This is not always easy, and quite frankly, you will face some rejection, but it you implement these techniques, you will be light years ahead of most men.

When a guy spots an attractive lady, he tends to make some serious mistakes right off the bat. First of all, he waits way too long before he approaches her. For this story, I am going to call our guy Dan. Dan tells his friends to check out the hot blonde by the bar, and immediately 4 drunk dudes are ogling her. If he’s unlucky, she will see all 5 of them staring at her like dorks.

Dan then ponders when he should approach her, and what he should say. This is very bad. Not only are you taking too much time to talk to her, which will only make your head spin trying to think of the perfect thing to say, but you are also leaving the door open for someone else to talk to her. To make matters worse, the longer you take, the more she will see you and your friends drooling over her like dogs. If this happens, say adios to the pretty blonde.

So, what can you do to actually approach and talk to a girl and have her enjoy it and not run for the hills?

1. Approach her immediately. Don’t give yourself time to think about things, and don’t allow enough time for her to see you staring at her 25 different times. I think you should approach a woman within 5 seconds of spotting her, but absolutely no more then 10 seconds. And, if the first time you see her, she happens to be looking at you too, she will think you are extremely confident when you walk up to her so quickly. This will be a turn-on to her, which will also immediately get you one step closer to getting past her wall.

2. Approach with strong body language. Women are far more perceptive than men, and they read body language very well. Way, way better than us guys! If you walk to her with your head down looking like you just got beat up by a little boy, then you have canceled out step 1.

Walk to her with purpose. Keep your head up, looking right at her with a small smile. This smile can almost be a sly grin. If she is looking at you, do not break eye contact. If anyone is going to look away first you better make sure it is her. Stand tall with your shoulders rolled back and your chest out. Walk at a medium pace, not too fast but not too slow. A nice, cool stroll will tell her that you are in control.

3. Don’t get too close to her. When you finally get to her, don’t get too close and invade her space. This will make her really uncomfortable. A couple feet is great.

4. Don’t seek approval or use pick-up lines. If you try and seek her approval, she will think you are insecure. No woman wants an insecure man. Don’t use pick-up lines either. I can’t believe that guys are still using these dumb things. They don’t work!

5. Greet her uniquely. Going up to her, shaking her hand, introducing yourself, and asking her what her name is, is totally boring, and clumps you right in with all the other dudes that have tried to talk to her. Make yourself stand out. Be unique. You want her to experience some emotion when she meets you. This is an attractive quality. It might feel weird or awkward at first, but in the long run, and as you become more comfortable with yourself and your technique, it will pay off.

There are various things you can do. one thing you can do is go in for a “high five.” Use your left hand too. As you are giving this unique greeting, say “What’s up?” or “What’s happening?” Draw it out too. Say “Whaaaaaat’s happenin?” or “Whaaaaaat’s up?” You can add a nickname to this as well. Whatever that is. Say your unique greeting and add a piece of clothing she is wearing, or the purse she is carrying. Not only is this unique and fun, it is showing women that you are noticing details, and women appreciate this. They don’t try and look nice for nothing.

So, you can say something like “Whaaaat’s up Louis Vuitton?” or “Whaaaat’s up great shoes?”

It might sound silly to you, but it’s a far more effective opening than what women normally hear.

Please stay tuned for part 2 of GREAT TIPS FOR APPROACHING WOMEN.

Date More Women - It Starts With Self Worth

When it comes to approaching and attracting women, most men are clueless. They don’t know what to say, or how to say it. They don’t understand how women think about themselves, or other men.

Before you can even begin to have the right set of tools to drive the ladies crazy, you need to have the right tools within yourself. I know you might be thinking this is sappy or corny, but it is more important than you know. In order for you to attract more women, and be successful with them, you need to have a healthy and confident self. Without knowing, growing, and learning about yourself, you will never be successful with women.

Most people are constantly having an internal dialogue with themselves. All day long we are having different conversations in our head. We think about what we want to eat, when should I workout, I hate work, she looks hot, or I can’t wait until the weekend. All day long day after day we are talking to ourselves. Our brain is a pretty hard working engine. It’s amazing it doesn’t burn out faster.

The other reality is that most people are average. Most people just go through the motions of daily life, just waiting for the day to be over. They hate their jobs, they hate their situation, and they dislike themselves. You might not want to hear this, but it is the truth. Most people are fairly unsatisfied and think negatively in their minds. Not everyone, but most.
The ones that don’t, the ones that strive to be different, better, revolutionary, or take control of their lives, are the ones that become great. People like this become leaders, role models, revolutionaries, or even savants with women. They think positively about life and themselves. They visualize greatness and then chase after it, never slowing down until they reach what they want. These are people like Martin Luther King Jr., Michael Jordan, Henry Ford, Albert Einstein, or John Lennon to name a few.

We are and become what our daily thoughts are. Some of you might already know all about this stuff if you have read THE SECRET by Rhonda Byrne or LAW OF ATTRACTION by Michael J. Losier. If you haven’t, you should pick up a copy today and start reading!

Have you ever heard the statement that if you tell a lie enough times you will begin to believe it? It’s true though, right? If you lie and lie the same lie over and over again, you begin to believe your own BS. You have said it so many times to so many people that it has become your reality.

Have you ever just known and felt something deep down that you know will come true? Have you ever gone into a situation and just known you were going to come out successful? There is no explaining it. You just know. You knew days in advance that you would come out successful. This is the same type of thing. Your feelings and thoughts play off each other and create realities.

This phenomenon is true with anything and everything. If you tell yourself over and over again that you are a loser and will never amount to anything, then guess what? You will be a loser that never amounts to anything. If you tell yourself that you are worthy and awesome and women would be crazy not to be with you, and you act the part, and think about yourself in a constant positive light, then you will have women drawn to you. It cannot work any other way.

When I became interested in learning more about women and relationships, I was a fairly negative thinker. Not all day, but it was a consistent theme. I did not think I was capable of having success with women. So guess what? I was not successful with women. My thoughts were I was no good, and my actions would follow my thought process, and the outcome was inevitable.
If this is all new to you, it might sound weird, or sound like a bunch of new age philosophy but I am telling you it works. Again, I would highly advise you to read one of the books mentioned a few paragraphs back.

I started doing some research on laws of attraction and the power of positive thinking once I finally realized that what I was doing was not working. At first, I was hesitant to read these types of books, and felt a little girly doing it. You might feel this way too. As I began to read and learn more and more about this way of thinking, I became fascinated by what it preached. It made so much sense to me!

So I started to try and shift my way of thinking. I started telling myself that I was going to start meeting women. Women were going to love being with me because of all my positive characteristics. I would remind myself daily what these positive characteristics were. I would recite them in my head. I would say them to myself when I went to bed and when I woke up in the morning. I would put notes on my mirror and in my car to remind me of who I was and what I wanted to become and achieve in my life.

Before long, I started feeling more confident. I started meeting more women, and they were responding to me like never before. This all had to do with my new way of thinking. Our thoughts and mind are so very powerful. They can do things that seem impossible. You can create any reality that you desire, because your reality is what you think and how you take those thoughts and put them into action.

Another important part of all this is visualization. Visualization has become such an important part of my daily routine and long term life plan. The best part of visualization, to me, is that it’s fun to do. Who doesn’t like daydreaming about positive things? I day dream about the money I want, the vacations I am on, the women I want to be with. It is so much fun! I visualize myself already in that moment. I use all my senses in the visualization. I can see, smell, feel, taste, and hear my visualization. This is a very powerful technique and concept.

If you practice the art of positive thinking and visualization on a daily basis, you will begin to see results. If you begin thinking about the type of woman you want and start dreaming about what you will do together, and how great the two of you are together, and you actually start believing you are already with her, you will end up with this woman at some point. You will end up with her sooner than later too. I know it sounds crazy, but I have done this, and I know other men who have done this as well.

Attract More Women - Break Down Their Defenses

I posted a great article that would be of benefit to you on a social networking site for dating and relationships. I give awesome advise on why women have defensive walls, and how you can get past them. You need to check it out today!

Jack

Love Detour - Great Advice On Dating And Relationships

There is a great website that not many people know about, but is going to be huge! I am currently an expert writer on the site, but there are tons of great experts in different fields and you can get some great pointers and tips from them. Please check the website out today!

www.advice.lovedetour.com also has a great social networking aspect to it where you can become friends with and chat it up with all kinds of people who are interested in attraction, dating, and relationships. Go check it out!

Be Social - An Easy Start To Attracting More Women

If you want to be successful with women, you need to have the right set of tools. Just like anything else in life, being able to attract and seduce women comes from having knowledge and experience in the area. You can gain knowledge by taking classes, reading books, watching educational dvds, surfing the web, reading ebooks, and many other sources. Along with doing your "homework' you need to get lots of experience. I know you want to become a lady magnet over night, but it does take practice!

I am a firm believer of taking baby steps with anything that I do. Whether it is learning to become great with the ladies, or learning how to cook, I start off slowly, and step by step I get better at it, and over time, I become great in that specific area. This is the most stress free way of doing anything.

So let's start from square one. You need to get out of your comfort zone, and start being social! If you rarely talk to strangers, this could seem like a huge obstacle to overcome. But guess what? If you can't talk to the person at the post office, then you will not be able to talk to and impress a beautiful woman.

At the same time, if you start talking to everyone you see, it will become difficult not to talk to a beautiful woman. You need to come out of your comfort zone, and re-train your way of thinking, forcing yourself to create a new daily habit. That habit is talking to people!

Since you are just starting out, and keeping to the baby step theory, say "How are you today?," or "Hello" to everyone that you see. That is it. Start making it a habit to say that to everyone, or at least 20 people a day. This might not seem like a big deal to you, or you might dread doing this, but believe me, after a week or 10 days of this, you will start feeling more confident with yourself, and confidence is so important when it comes to attracting and dating women.

There is one more important thing to add to saying Hello to everyone. Eye contact. Look the person straight in the eyes, and say hello in a strong voice. Don't yell it, but don't say it like you are a submissive puppy dog. That is it. This is a powerful exercise that will get you started on the right path.

In Summary:

1. Make eye contact with everyone you see

2. Say Hello to everyone you see

3. Say your greeting with confidence. Don't say it with your tail between your legs.

Do this for 7-10 days and you will be amazed at how much more comfortable you will feel talking to people all from just looking people in their eyes and saying HI.

Monogamy - Is It Natural?

Dear Future Studs,

I want this blog to be something that you look forward to reading on a weekly, or even daily basis. Not only do I want to provide you with great tips on how to attract and date more women, but I also want to give my personal thoughts on everything and anything that has to do with women and relationships. And, to keep your attention, I will also try and keep it light, adding as much humor as possible on any topic known to man!

Today I want to talk about monogamy. Is it natural? Many people firmly believe that it is. Man and woman fall in love and stay as one for ever and ever. After all, what is more natural than wanting to sleep with one person for the rest of your life? Seems great right? One chick for the next, oh....say 45-60 years. Sounds pretty natural, right?

Do I believe that monogamy is natural? Hell no!

Considering that aside from humans, only about 3% of mammals pair up. To me, that means monogamy is very unnatural.

Now, I am not against being faithful, or staying with one woman. When I am with a woman seriously, I am with her. I have never cheated and I don't plan on cheating. I just think we as humans have the ability to think on a higher level, and that higher level thinking makes us do some wacky shit.

So where am I going with all of this?

If you are looking to date, and you are doing it casually, then go and date as many women as possible. There is nothing ethically wrong, in my opinion, with having sexual relationships with multiple women at once (I AM ALWAYS PRACTICING AND PREACHING SAFE SEX...DON'T BE STUPID). Don't let this BS that has been drilled into your head, and into the heads of people for thousands of years slow you down. You only live once. Why not have some fun and variety.

I think this is a very healthy and modern way of thinking. By taking on this model, I say that you will end up having healthier and more satisfying monogamous relationships when you are ready to do so. You will have experienced more women, learned more about women, and you will have a much better idea of what you are looking for in a relationship.

In fact, I think think I could solve this nation's divorce crisis with a few quick shots to the system. What do you think about that? That is a topic for another day :)

Always Strive For The Best,

Jack Rockwell